Women often come to therapy with me seeking to get rid of a part of themselves. Perhaps it’s the perfectionistic part, the part that rages at her family, the part that just doesn’t seem cut out for motherhood, or the part that her own mother can’t stand. But here’s the thing: all of those parts serve a purpose, even if right now they seem to be causing us nothing but pain and heartache. They aren’t bad. They are usually trying to protect some other more wounded and vulnerable part of us. So instead of trying to get rid of them, the task of therapy is to try to understand what those parts are doing, why they’re doing it, and then heal whatever it is they’ve been protecting. That is the way out of pain and into the life we all deserve to be living.

I believe that this healing happens in the context of a supportive and safe relationship. My role as your therapist is to develop that relationship with you and then hold that safe and supportive space as your mind, body, and spirit do what they do best: heal, transform, and grow.

I won’t promise that this will be easy. But I can promise to be there with you until the mess is clear. You aren’t alone in this.